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As the days go by and time elapses since Riley’s death we seem to desire her smile and presence among us even more. The passing of time means the longer it has been since we embraced her, kissed her, and touched her. I don’t think time heals. If anything it makes the miss even greater and the desire to have her physically present even stronger.
This does not mean we are not healing.
We know that God heals; the support of family and friends heals; helping others heals; raising, loving and living with our other 3 children heals; studying His word and learning to trust in His promises heals; and that ultimately it is LOVE that truly heals.
1 Corinthians 13
The Excellence of Love
1 If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part; 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away. 11 When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known. 13 But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.
Perhaps the adversities of this life are designed to help us grow to love fuller and teach us how to be loved better - preparing us for our ultimate destination which is to be in the perfect and complete love of God in heaven. Riley, is now, exactly where God designed her to be, and every day as we learn to love better we get one step closer to our final reward. So if we allow the adversities of this life to grow us in love then maybe time does heal.
I guess what we are saying is that we hurt, we miss Riley greatly, and that every day is a challenge, but by they Grace of God and through His perfect love we survive and He will gradually grow us again to thrive in this life until we have the pleasure to be called home.
We are thankful for those who have been called to love and support us over the past few months. We realize it is difficult especially when it requires those who support us to hurt with us. So we thank those of you who have been willing to love us. We are also thankful that God continues to use us to help others. It is through helping others that we are reminded of our countless and daily blessings that flow from Him. And we are especially thankful for His continued presence, perfect love, and ultimate control.
We were reminded again this weekend of His perfect control of even the smallest things in our life. We have been blessed to be able to follow the ECU soccer team closely
this year. Many of the players are special to us and we have "adopted" one as our own, so we have been traveling to away games as if our child were on the team-because we feel she is. Riley is a part of so many on that field that it is difficult for us not to feel her presence. With that being said, we left Friday afternoon to drive to Charlotte for 2 away games this weekend. Since we are from Greenville, we forget that traffic sometimes needs to be calculated into travel time. We thought we had plenty of time with a 1 hour cushion, but 1 hour can quickly be eaten up in Triangle traffic. Then we also managed to hit traffic and construction in Greensboro. Despite using all the electronic gifts God has given us we were still sadly very late. We knew we would never make it on time to the game and then I saw lightning in the distance. I pulled up the weather report showing a 30% chance of rain/lightning and I told Kirk I was praying for a lightning delay. He of course told me there was no way that would happen. Then 15 minutes later Kimmy texted us saying that the game was being delayed for lightning. Wouldn't you know the team took the field for warm ups 1 hour after the game was schedule to start and just as we arrived. We were reminded how God controls even the smallest details of our lives. And don't you know if He has a handle on the small things He is definitely orchestrating the big things too! So we are reminded to trust in His plan and control even if it is not according to our desire.
Please pray with us for other families who have experienced loss, but especially for Amber and Lizzie's families as they are both local and struggling with the loss of a child this past week. We pray for their peace and for God's love to surround them so they may start to heal also.
Healing through love, Kirk and Kelly